Are You Killing Your Sex Drive?

June 7th, 2015

Source: TNN

While romantics believe that love can last you a lifetime, sex plays a major part in keeping those embers ignited. In a city where our lives are run by money, we are over-burdened with the weight that jobs bring and it’s common to experience a dip in desire, both to love and to make love. Ignorance can be your worst enemy. There are common things we do, things that are part of our daily regimen that sap our sex drive. Sexpert Dr Mahindra Watsa sheds light on things that could be siphoning away your love juice.

Hair Renewal Creams
Baldness might be a turn off for many women, but revitalising that crop might just be turning you off sex altogether. There are many baldness creams out there but a few new ones cause erectile dysfunction. A study by George Washington University School of Medicine has pinned it down to the drug finasteride. The study showed that 94 per cent of men using the drug felt lower levels of sexual desire, 92 per cent suffered erectile dysfunction and 69 per cent found it difficult to even have an orgasm. Experts feel that it alters levels of neurotransmitters, chemicals that affect mood and other bodily functions.

Contraception Pills
If you thought that the pill is a free pass for uninhibited lovemaking, think again. Contraceptive pills trick the brain into thinking that a woman’s body is pregnant, hence fertilization does not occur. Ironically, this is precisely what kills any desire for sex in some women. A hospital in Germany conducted a study on 1,000 women on oral contraception and most of them experienced lower levels of arousal. The cases Dr Watsa has encountered show that this affects different women differently.

Having a baby
While humans don’t have sex to only procreate, when it really comes down to it, having a child can cause a recession in the bedroom. Before conception, if a man feels that his erection is not good enough, this can result in him being put off sex. In women, the fear of pain during pregnancy, if not voiced, can result in the same. After conception, many women go through depression, putting them off. Even the attention a baby receives from the mother can make men wonder why things have changed in the relationship hindering the need for sex.

The cardiac club
People who get stressed out, drink and smoke excessively are part of the cardiac club for its long-term effects on your heart. Indulging in a vice might be fun, but it’s not so much under the sheets. Smoking and drinking can cause impotency and erectile dysfunction. While something as simple as a stock market crash or an ineffective day at work can translate negatively in the bedroom.

Common disease pills
Diabetes affects the nerves which causes a decrease in the sense of touch. The disease also causes a drop in testosterone levels and narrows your arteries down, a clear indication of erectile dysfunction.

The medication used for blood pressure has adverse side-effects on sex life. High blood pressure medication reduces the heart rate, hence reducing the blood flow through your body. This can hinder blood from reaching the genitals, giving rise to erectile dysfunction.

Tips to get it going again

Lifestyle changes
Talking to your partner is the first step to getting your sex life back on track. Cut down on sugar, caffeine, alcohol, processed foods and stop smoking to improve blood flow to your sexual organs. Consult your doctor about the medication you are taking. Exercise for at least half an hour three times a week, it will boost your libido and also make you feel sexy.

Organic sex boosters

While garlic might cause halitosis it also acts as a libido booster. Also add ginseng and ginger in your diet. Chocolate with high cocoa content works too. Low levels of zinc can reduce the libido. Wholemeal bread, brown rice, dark green leafy vegetables, lean red meat, turkey and shellfish are rich in zinc content.

Spice it up
Sex toys might be banned in India, but everyone has a friend who visits from debauched countries in the west. Use sex games, share your fantasies and remember not to judge. Psychological stimulation might be all that your flailing libido needs.

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27 Responses to “Are You Killing Your Sex Drive?”

  1. bailey says:

    After baby #1 everything changed, fast. I took in a step child, quit my job and became sahm, started college courses, Got married, had another baby all in just 3 and half years! My sex drive is completely out tye window, gone! My husband doesnt understand it and asks for sex on the regular, like every day. Tomorrows his bday and i already her crap for not giving it up last night (“birthday week”) he always says something if we dont have sex one night. Its really exhausting, like its just another task on my list of things i do every day. So when we DO have sex, he almost always uses his fantasy ..which is a disturbing one in my opinion. It sometimes works for me to, gets us to the end…but usually hurts one of our feelings. Idk what to do! I feel more pressure than ever going into his bday. I want to just be his hot sex toy tomorrow but i know im not into it.

  2. bj says:

    (I know most of my sexual trouble, is psychological,but I do not satisfy my husband**married only 3yrs )my husband an I have two different ideas on great sex. He likes trashy , wild sex. I’m more into passion and emotion. sex feels more like a job that I’m not good at anymore. Will this pill, give me the drive for se x? I need that sexual want too. I do not like knowing my husbands ex wife was better than me. I HOPE YOUR PILL CAN GIVE ME THAT SEXUAL PUSH

    • admin says:

      This supplement is formulated to increase sexual drive and pleasure. So it should definitely help in that area. With regards to your husband’s preferences, you might want to try something different.

  3. Monica says:

    Im only 20, and I used to love having sex with my boyfriend all the time. Then I decided to try out the contraceptive Pill, whilst also being prescribed anti depressants.
    They seemed to affect me very negatively, so I stopped taking them immediately. Now I have absolutely no sex drive – I dont even masturbate anymore.
    Im worried if I try out these pills that I will become dependant on them to become aroused.
    Please help – no idea what to do anymore, and its taking a tole on the relationship!

    • admin says:

      Contraceptive pills can kill your sex drive. However, with hersolution this is reversible and you can enjoy sex with your boyfriend again. These pills work by re-energising your system naturally and do not make you dependent upon them. So you can go ahead and try them

  4. mlt3 says:

    Its him sounds like you need to move on and find somebody that does it for you. You shouldn’t have to work to be attracted to him.

  5. kay says:

    I am 36 years old and a very attractive woman but own a business have 3 kids under 10 have been married 16 years and am involved in community service daily. After my 1st child i noticed a difference. I also had a problem with my husband cheating on me once so i barely have a sex drive even though I feel sexy when its time to deliver i’m just not interested. not sure what to do.

    • admin says:

      Your issue seems to be more psychological than physiological. You can still try hersolution pills that will revive your sex drive and make you want more.

  6. Isabella says:

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and I no longer have any desire to become intimate with him. I’ve had the Inplanon for about a year. I am aroused by exotic videos, but only when I’m alone. Is it him? What could be the problem? Could HerSolution help?

  7. emily says:

    i feel soo tired all the time, very busy and have no time! its hard to find time for sex and when we do i have no desire for it! i am in my 20s is this abnormal and what do you suggest?

    • admin says:

      Stress, hectic lifestyle and no time for yourself are sure shot libido killers. You need to relax and take some time out for yourself and your partner. These supplements will help you relax and get your desire back but you would need to find time still.

  8. Cricket says:

    Women must use caution taking higher levels of testosterone to boost libido; it deposits DHT which damages the hair follicle. My hair is thinning terribly now. Not worth it to me!

  9. Sarah says:

    I have been on birth control, and don’t have much sex drive. But I have never really had much of one. Would pill enhancers clash with my birth control? I’ve heard stories about other pills causing the birth control to become less effective.
    I have a problem with tenseness with sex. Even though we’ve had sex plenty of times over the last 2 years, I’m always afraid it will hurt initially. I hate it because I can be in the mood, which rarely happens, and as soon as it gets to penetration time, I’m turned off because I’m afraid it will hurt. Also, it’s getting frustrating for both of us, because he wants sex every day. I’m always too stressed out about one thing or another. Like how it would cause us to lose sleep, or I’m too worried about whatever is going on in our lives that could cause stress. I’m just hoping a sex enhancer can help. But I’m worried it will mess with my birth control.

    • admin says:

      Hersolution does not mess with birth control pills. So you don’t need to worry about that aspect to start with. Now, as far as getting into the mood is concerned, these supplements have shown very good results. They will also help you relax and possibly take your fears away and make sex more enjoyable for the both of you.

  10. ada says:

    I’m 22 female, recently got back from 5 months military training. my boyfriend complains about me not wanting sex anymore. I don’t know what happen. When we first started dating i wasn’t on any birth control (had sex 3 times a day), then about 5 months in i started the ring (i didn’t notice any change in sex). While i was at training a few weeks before i was to return home they denied me the ring and gave me the shot. Now i have no desire to have sex and its putting a HUGE strain on my relationship. Should i invest in a female enhancer?

    • admin says:

      Birth control can cause a sever drop in libido. Fortunately, these supplements have shown great results in reversing this and it might be worthwhile for you to try these to get back your sex desire.

  11. kim says:


    • admin says:

      Obviously your hectic work schedule and household responsibilities have killed your sex drive. Is it possible that someone else (your children?) take care of the children so you can take some more time out for yourselves? Managing two kids at your age would obviously tire you out enough to leave you with no energy to even think of sex. These supplements would help to get the desire but with this schedule it would be very difficult to have anything meaningful when it comes to an active sex life. Try taking some quality time out with your fiance’ !

  12. Stephane says:

    Libido is a function of good helath, both general well being and the reproductive helath.Regular exercise, normal diet, and preferably abstaining from smoking or drinking(alcohol) could help improve the helath in general and the libido.Heavy consumption of alcohol, and tobacco are known to decrease the sexual urge.Similarly, sedentary lifestyle, obesity, and certain types of foods could induce lower sexual drive.There are numerous hawks who prescribe herbal concoctions to improve libido! Most of them are un tested and many of them are out right fake!A doctor is the best qualified person to test and ascertain if your reproductive helath is good. Based on a medical examination, a doctor would prescribe medication, if your low libido is caused by pathological reasons.Good luck!

  13. N.Williams says:

    I am on Paxil and it takes away any libedo that a woman has.. My hormones are not working either.. I’m 72.. I have a boyfriend that doesn’t have a clue that my libedo is gone.. I need testosterone and ????? Please advise if your pills have testosterone for a woman who has very little to boost.. thanks.

    • admin says:

      These pills do not have testosterone as such but they help your body produce testosterone naturally to increase your desire. However, considering your other medication it would be best to ask your doctor what would be most useful to get your libido back.

  14. Marie says:

    I do not feel like I am a good partner for my husband. I am not on any form of contraception, or any medication. My libido just seems to be absent. Although sometimes I feel like my fear of becoming pregnant henders me from wanting to become intimate. I have tried contraception (for 1yr) it decreased my libido, and affected me emotionally. I have been w/o for about 4yrs. My husband is well endowded and with my libido not being high it makes intimacy very uncomfortable. We have tried lubricants and I have a reaction to them, and do not want to use them. Are there any natural things I can do to help?

    • admin says:

      If gels are something you don’t prefer, pills might be the answer for your problem. It will help create a hormonal balance required to have a healthy sex drive and enjoyable sexual relationship.

  15. Michelle says:

    i am 30 year old female with two children, 4 years and 7 month old sons. I absolutley have no sex drive

  16. Melissa says:

    HELP!!! my libido is nonexsistant,I haven’t even reached my 20′s yet and I have no desire to have sex,the only reason I do it is to keep my boyfriend happy, its always been like that even before i had my birth control put in (Implanon, its a hormonal implant), please help.

    • admin says:

      Have you been diagnosed with any hormonal imbalances? Some people have a lower sexual appetite but it can be improved with these natural supplements. You could try a course of hersolution pills for a few months because it is unlikely that you would notice a difference straightaway. Of course you will get the gel free with your order, so use it just before sexual intercourse to help with arousal, pleasure and dryness.

  17. Paul says:

    Can women become pregnant after the age of 50 by having sex by her partner

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